We are all human, and as such, are imperfect. Step 10 challenges us to recognize when we are imperfect, and to make amends when necessary. Nancy reflects on a recent experience that challenged her long-standing beliefs and provided a profound learning moment.







She begins by recounting an incident that occurred while her son was visiting her and her husband. During the drive home, her dog unexpectedly leaped into her lap, causing her to swerve and damage a tire. Upon arrival, she fabricated a story about the tire spontaneously exploding, instead of admitting the truth. Nancy was overwhelmed with fear of judgment and her desire to maintain a certain image in front of her family. 







As Nancy shared the unfolding of her deception, she highlighted the role her past struggles played in her reaction. Fearful of appearing less competent, she clung to her false narrative, even after her husband expressed skepticism. Her story eventually crumbled under scrutiny, leading to an emotional confrontation at dinner. It was there that she finally admitted her dishonesty, apologized, and made amends to her family.







Nancy's experience illuminated deep-seated character defects and the continuous work required to overcome them. She was reminded that despite years in recovery, imperfection is inherent to humanity. The relief and forgiveness she received from her husband and son emphasized the transformative power of amends. 







Meanwhile, Spencer shared a revelation of his own, reflecting on an interaction with a neighbor that left him uneasy. He recognized his impulsive condemnation regarding a local issue, inadvertently placing his neighbor in an uncomfortable position. The incident spurred contemplation on his motivations and the importance of making amends even when it feels uncomfortable. 







Both Nancy and Spencer's stories illustrate the role of Step 10 in fostering self-awareness and promoting honesty. By diligently inventorying their actions and motives, they acknowledged their imperfections. The practice of making amends, they learned, is not just about repairing relationships but also about understanding oneself and committing to growth.







Both attest to the profound impact of journaling, viewing it as a powerful way to connect with their higher power and solidify their reflections. Writing allows them to articulate their feelings, confront their truths, and trace their progress over time.







Ultimately, their stories are a testament to the strength found in vulnerability and the relentless pursuit of progress over perfection. Both Nancy and Spencer remind us that regardless of our time in recovery, embracing our humanity and committing to ongoing self-examination is key to spiritual growth and personal peace.







Readings and Links







We read from Hope for Today, June 21, p. 173.







A listener sent a poem from Lincoln in the Bardo by George Saunders. (Note: if you buy through this link, we will receive a small commission for eligible purchases.)







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[00:00:01 ] Spencer: Step 10 asks us to promptly admit it when we are wrong. How do we make this work in our life, in practice?